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Are You Wintering?

1/2/2024

As winter is a time of retreat and hibernation for much of the natural world, wintering is the process by which our bodies and souls seek rest and recuperation when the clouds descend and light fades. - Sheridan Voysey

You may find it happening without your permission. Things wear you out that you thought you would have plenty of mental or physical energy for, and it takes longer to recover than you expected.

Your natural tendency is to go-go-go, but as the darker months unfold, you find that your get up and go, got up and went.

For those of us who are lightworkers, the way we experience the slow down of winter may be even more pronounced. But I believe we will find it easier to deal with if we lean into it instead of fighting it.

What if instead of fighting the darkest season of the year we embraced it? - Cydney Weiner

Dancing with the Darkness

In America, we have exalted both busyness and exhaustion, and we have been conditioned to do so. That means that setting an intention to rest and retreat, instead, is a revolutionary decision.

But it's such an important choice to make. Especially if you are a lightworker and healer.

Think of it this way. You naturally emit both light codes and healing frequencies. Some people feel better just by being in your presence.

And there may be those who siphon your energy without your permission, or try to do so. If you're an empath, then you also may experience other people's thoughts and feelings as your own without even knowing it.

So rest is crucial. But so is retreat, for spiritual renewal. How can you carve out time every day to nurture yourself and lessen the burden of living a human life?

Your spirit is limitless, but your energy is not. And I think that as lightworkers, that can be hard to accept.

My own intention is to stop trusting that impulse to keep going, when I know I need to stop. And sometimes the best way for me to do that is to schedule in time for the simple pleasures I might normally not get around to in an average day.

What about you? Do you have an intention that involves rest and spiritual self-care, or retreat?

Wintering is how wisdom is made, and every time we winter, we grow in resilience and compassion, and we deepen our capacity for joy. - Katherine May

Creating a Cozy Winter

Katherine May, author of Wintering: The Power of Rest & Retreat in Difficult Times, said in an interview that we usually wait until we crash, before surrendering to winter, and that often means getting sick. But we can choose to lean into it, instead, and make it a cozy experience.

Wintering is an open invitation to take better care of ourselves. - Katherine May

Crystals for a Warm, Cozy Winter

In a comment below, Roy asked about crystals for winter, and what a great question! So I am editing this post to add some tips on which crystals you can use.

For warmth and coziness, choose garnet or red jasper. As Nadya mentioned, selenite is another good crystal to use, both for soothing negative feelings and for getting rid of negative energy with its high frequency.

To add a little sunshine, try sunstone. It is strong, warm fire energy and may feel like you are holding sunshine.

How about you? How are you handling winter this year?

Stay tuned for tomorrow's post, when we'll be talking about sleep, specifically. See you then!

Love, Jeanine

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New Year's Resolutions for Lightworkers

1/1/2024

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Before we talk about New Year's resolutions, I have something very important to say: Happy New Year & Welcome to the Winter Edition of the Ultimate Blog Challenge! :)

I'm excited to be starting a new challenge, but also a bit apprehensive, because I like to write most of my blog posts ahead of time, and have not managed to do that this time around.

If you're new to this 30-day blog challenge, we're (mostly) a bunch of old friends who get together once a season and talk to each other daily, or off and on, for a month. I've missed quite a few, but I started doing this challenge back in 2010.

Who am I? I'd love to introduce myself...

Hello! I'm Jeanine Byers

I'm Jeanine, and my mission these days is to help create the new earth, during the Age of Aquarius. Many of us are alive right now for that reason.

But specifically, I'm here to help other healers, lightworkers, etc. to discover and empower their true selves amidst all of the lies they have been programmed to believe.

It is one heck of a challenge, let me tell you. I believe it is everyone's challenge, ultimately, but those of us who are lightworkers agreed to awaken first so that we could be there for others.

And we need to find and support each other as we awaken spiritually, reinvent ourselves, and resolve the cognitive dissonance that happens as we shift our world views.

I'm in the process of creating what will become either a course or a mini membership - I keep going back and forth about which one it will be - and an introductory offering, both of which will be for lightworkers and about using spiritual self-care rituals to uncover the true self.

New Year's Resolutions
for Lightworkers

Disclaimer: I don't really believe in making yearly resolutions, in the traditional sense. But I think it's almost impossible to face a new year without thinking about your hopes and dreams for it, and I've done a little of both for my fellow healers & lightworkers.

This list of recommendations also could be called a manifesto, I suppose. But anyway, here goes.

The resolutions I would recommend as we head into the Age of Aquarius, a time when, astrologically and spiritually, energy and effort will be expended to create massive transformations.

(1) Create a daily slow living, self-care healing lifestyle so that you can nurture your own transformation and well-being, and be fully available for the work you are called to do in the world.

(2) Practice letting go of limiting beliefs & matrix programming from the past. I say practice because it is a process that will require dedication and devotion.

(3) Discover, empower and embody your true self. During moments of stillness, practice presence. And separate your identity from the false self you have been led to believe is the real you.

(4) Schedule more time for rest than you think you need, so that your cup is full as you focus on pouring into others.

(5) Allow self-love and self-acceptance. Be gentle with yourself as you navigate these changes. It's a lot to take on and you are a precious gift to the world, no matter how you might be judging yourself in the moment.

I intend to write more about these recommendations during the next 30 days.

I have a chronic illness, so I am likely to only post a few times a week after this one. And to quote a line from The American President, all plans are soft until confirmed.

What about You?

What are your wishes and longings for this new year? And if you're participating in the blog challenge, what will you be writing about this month?

See you tomorrow!

Love, Jeanine

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How to Shine Bright as Your Authentic Self & Let Yourself Have the Life You Have Been Called to Live

12/29/2023

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Not only do I feel freedom and deep peace with every choice I make, but I'm also not afraid to shine big and shine bright, and to be true to who I am.
- Helena Woods

To step into a new identity,
you have to let go of the old one.
-Helena Woods

As we get ready to close out another year, I want to remind you of the importance of a slower lifestyle, and of reinventing the life that has kept you stuck into one that frees you to be exactly who you are. If you are a healer, light worker, starseed or empath, it's likely that this has been a stumbling block for you, as it has been for me.

But we are answering the call to help humanity ascend, and we agreed to go first. That means not only being true to who you are now, but opening your heart to all you will become as you let yourself expand.

The real you is not a people pleaser.

You cannot be sold out and dedicated to healing and expansion and also be worried about what people will think. And at any moment you need to be able to call in exactly what you need for this new earth mission, and in order to know you can do that, you have to see yourself in a whole new way.

And you have to know that you deserve the higher frequency life you are aiming for, because that life will be a good one. If you are struggling with low self-esteem or self-worth, you won't be able to let yourself have it.

But enlightenment does not require perfection, it only requires the willingness to heal and grow and change the way you see yourself and what you can do. It requires a connection to all that is, and a willingness to be shown new worlds and gain access to new gifts and abilities.

Are you willing? Watch this video. It will inspire and encourage you, and remind you of who you are.

Now she does have a middle part of it where she talks about the Aura app, and it is an ad, but if you don't like that part, just ignore it. Sounds like a great app, though...

What did you think?

The path to living your full enlightened, ascended life is so intricately woven with self-love, self-acceptance, and intentional self-care, that you can't afford not to have them. And she makes that point and more, beautifully.

I love you guys!

See you next time.

Jeanine

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3 Spiritual Reasons Light Leaders Need a Cozy, Slow Living Christmas

12/7/2023

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3 Reasons to Create a Cozy
Slow Living Christmas

The obvious reasons for slowing down during the holiday season and making things cozy is that you and your family and friends will enjoy the season more, without missing some of the moments that get lost in the normal chaos of the gift-gathering extravaganza. And I honor those reasons as important, too.

But what are the spiritual reasons? And why this Christmas season, in particular? Here are three reasons it's important for light leaders to slow down this month...

(1) According to Kerry K., a big timeline shift is coming, and we need to rest now to prepare for it. Watch this video to find out more...

(2) Most of us (light leaders) have been hearing the call to go into hermit mode.

We're going to be receiving and processing lots of downloads and activations and we need to protect our energy. More on how to do that during the typical chaos of the holiday season, especially with extended family visits, etc.,in a future post.

But here's a hint to tide you over until then - headphones.

You're not who you think you are.

(3) We've been conditioned to believe that the identity we constructed to survive our childhoods is who we really are. But the truth is that we've forgotten who we are.

And remembering takes time. Alone.

But sometimes the truth comes to us in quiet moments, when we're not even looking for it. Slowing life down will create more of those quiet moments.

What do you think? Tell me in a comment, have I convinced you?

Happy Holidays!

Love, Jeanine

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The Frame Technique: My Results

11/7/2023

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A month or so ago, I embarked on a 21-day experiment with The Frame Technique. I learned it from an Aaron Doughty video and posted about it on my first day. Stay tuned and I'll tell you how to do it and share my results.

The most POWERFUL meditation for SETTING BOUNDARIES. This meditation will allow you feel safe in your own frame so that is easier for you to set boundaries and let go of people pleasing patterns. Listen to this meditation for 21 days and see how your life transforms. - Aaron Doughty

How to Do the Frame Technique

The Frame Technique involves breathing deeply and slowly, allowing yourself to fully relax. Then you stare intently at a candle flame while observing the distance between you and the flame and thinking about the distance between you and people with whom you need to set better boundaries.

He suggested that on the inhale you notice distances and on the exhale, you look at the periphery of the candle.

Here's What Happened for Me

I listened to the actual meditation twice. Then I started doing it on my own.

But I noticed that sometimes my relaxation was not as deep, so I lengthened the time for that, but also slowed down the voice in my head as I remembered him speaking s l o w l y.

It definitely helps with my sense of self, and boundaries - meaning, where i end and someone else begins. I think it has helped with setting boundaries, too.

In hindsight, I wish I had listened to the actual video meditation more often because I think there was something about the way he did it, that I did not replicate.

What do you think? Is this something you might try?

See you next time!

Love, Jeanine

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Wordless Wednesday: Christmas Joy

11/1/2023

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Joy is to be found in in stillness. To access it, you need to quiet the doubts, fears and other noise in your head, quiet down the noise of the world, and feel your connection to who you really are. Your deeper self is where joy resides. - Joanna Hennon

This month will be dedicated to Christmas magic, and the joy of the season is part of that. But to fully experience it, you can't run at Christmas the way you might in your normal life. You'll have to slow down & create moments of stillness each day. I hope to share the Christmas magic here, but sometimes I need a break after a 30-day blog challenge, so we'll see how it goes.

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Happy Halloween & Goodbye 'til Winter

10/31/2023

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Thank you so much for spending the month of October with me!

I hope it went well for your blog. Do you feel good about the experience?

Just checked my stats and it looks like I had about 400 page views more than I had before the challenge and my blog post viewership, in general, is up 79%. I'll take it!

I'll look forward to writing with you again in 2024.

What will you be doing between now and then? I will dive into Christmas, of course, and I don't know how much I will blog.

When I do, it will be holiday-related. What about you?

See you next year. Meanwhile, Happy Halloween, Happy Thanksgiving, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

Love you!

Jeanine

P.S. This month's images have all been brought to you by the letters AI.

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Living from the Heart

10/30/2023

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In my own journey to understand what it truly means to live from the heart, I've encountered various ideas and philosophies.

It's been a process of unlearning the years spent ignoring that inner voice. Recently, in the spiritual community, we've been hearing a lot about the concept of following our heart, but what does it really involve or require?

Recently, I came across a YouTube video with a channeled message from the angels, along with Anne Tucker's insightful translation and discussion of the message. This, in my opinion, opened up the topic in a whole new way, and I'm excited to share my understanding with you.

Living from the Heart

Living from the heart isn't just about making whimsical choices. It's a conscious shift from a mind-driven existence to a heart-centered one.

From a young age, we're conditioned to rely on our rational minds – to plan meticulously, overthink, and make decisions based on past experiences or external authorities.

These patterns often stem from a sense of insecurity that external influences have instilled in us. The world bombards us with messages that we can't trust ourselves, that something is amiss, and we need to conform to predefined norms.

As a result, we become trapped in our minds, and even when we hear the advice to 'follow your heart,' we process it through a mental filter.

Letting Our Hearts Lead the Way

The truth, as revealed in the channeled message, is that our minds were never meant to be the lead actors in our life's story.

They're essential, but their role is to serve the heart's desires, not overshadow them. True living from the heart involves noticing what brings us joy and excitement, and then using our minds to bring those heart-driven ideas into reality.

What do you think about this idea of living from the heart? If you're interested, here's how you might get started...

How to Start Letting Your Heart Lead

(1) Self-Reflection: Take some time to reflect on your life and how you are living it now.

Do you already make some choices based on your heart's desires, or do you mostly follow your mind's dictates?

(2)Try Mindfulness Practices: Meditation, deep breathing exercises, and moments of quiet self-reflection can help you connect with your inner self. These practices create a space for you to listen to your heart.

(3) Identify What Lights You Up: Pay attention to what truly brings you joy and excitement. Make a list of activities, hobbies, or interests that you've always loved or choose something new you'd like to explore.

(4) Set Clear Intentions: Once you've identified what brings you joy and excitement, set clear intentions for yourself.

What do you want to experience in your life, and how do you want to feel? Setting intentions provides direction for your heart's desires.

(5) Follow Your Inner Guidance: Trust your intuition. When faced with decisions, take a moment to quiet your mind and listen to your inner guidance. Your heart will often know what you need, even when it defies logic.

(6) Take Inspired Action: When your heart speaks, take inspired action. Don't overthink it; trust that your heart's desires are leading you toward a life you will love.

(7) Adjust as Needed: it's the mind that expects you to do it once and get it right thereafter. But the truth is, while living from the heart can become a way of life, it's not likely to be a perfect, linear path.

Here's a heart-centered meditation that may help you connect more deeply to your heart.

Try this Heart-Centered Meditation

Begin by finding a quiet and comfortable space where you can sit or lie down. Close your eyes and take a few deep, cleansing breaths to relax your body and mind.

Pay attention to your breath as it flows in and out. Feel the rise and fall of your chest with each breath. Imagine that with each inhale, you are drawing energy and light into your heart.

Picture a warm, radiant light at the center of your chest. This light represents your heart's energy. It's filled with love, compassion, and wisdom.

Imagine someone or something that fills your heart with love and gratitude. Maybe a loved one, a cherished memory, or a place of happiness.

As you think about it, allow the warm light in your heart to grow brighter and more expansive.

In your mind, open the doors of your heart wide. Imagine that your heart is a sanctuary where your true self lives.

Feel the love, courage, and authenticity within you. Allow this energy to radiate from your heart and fill your entire being.

As you bask in this heart-centered energy, ask your heart if there's any message or guidance it wants to share with you.

Listen for any subtle insights or feelings that arise. Trust that your heart has something to say, even if it isn't in words.

Now that your heart is open and connected, let yourself dream about the kind of life you want to create. What would it look like and feel like?

As you bring this meditation to a close, thank your heart for its wisdom and guidance, and for the connection you're feeling.

When you're ready, gently bring your awareness back to your physical environment. Open your eyes and take a moment to reflect on the meditation.

Exploring Living from the Heart

Thanks for exploring this idea with me. I'd love to know your thoughts.

See you tomorrow!

Love, Jeanine

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Meditation is Your Superpower: How to Use it to Expand Your Consciousness

10/28/2023

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After a period of meditation, practitioners usually return to a waking state and their brain resumes how it normally functions during a waking state. However, this suggests that when you practice meditation regularly, you can maintain that feeling of wholeness and integrate it into your life.
- Frederick Travis, dean of Maharishi University’s graduate college and director of its EEG, Consciousness, and Cognition Lab.

In today's post, we'll talk a wee bit more about meditation...

The fact that meditation can lead to expansion, ascension and enlightenment is not news. But how long does it take?

Most experts and researchers have suggested that it takes many thousands of hours. But is that true? My guides say no. And the latest research seems to agree with them.

Effortless Mindfulness

The article I referred to in yesterday's post, on effortless mindfulness, suggests that it might be the way we approach meditation or raising consciousness that affects how long it takes. But it also matters what the goal is.

Maybe we don't need to be masters, we just need to raise our frequency and our consciousness.

Deliberate Mindfulness includes one-pointed focus and nonjudgmentally observing the changing contents of our mind and body. On the other hand, Effortless Mindfulness shifts from focusing on the contents to discovering the context, an awareness that is already awake and free of suffering.
Effortless Mindfulness, medium.com

My Guidance When Asking about This

Meditation can help you become enlightened, but instead of needing 10,000 hours, you will be able to do it a lot faster now. Time is speeding up, so to speak, because the Great Awakening is beginning. And we need all hands on deck, so we will be helping you make progress faster than you might otherwise do.

On the other hand, don't rush yourself. Let us be the ones who speed up your ascension. All we need you to do is dedicate time every day to meditate and when you do, deepen your awareness of the space around you. The between spaces. And the connecting spaces.

As we grow more comfortable with resting in awareness, ... we will slowly come to see that this spacious awareness is who we truly are.
-Tibetan Lama Tulku Urgyen Rinpoche

In my opinion, this magic described in the quote above, which can happen LONG before you have put in thousands of hours, is what makes meditation a superpower. Watch this video below to get advice on how to use this superpower during your day...

How to Get Started

One of the things I really appreciate about this video is that he starts with telling you how to ease into meditating every day, but then goes on to tell you how to incorporate this practice into your daily lifestyle, even when you can only take a minute or two here and there.

Over to you. What do you think about using meditation as part of your own daily routine?

See you next time!

Love, Jeanine

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Try this Brief Mindfulness Meditation Exercise with Me

10/27/2023

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Have you ever taken a walk in nature and felt a profound sense of peace, as if just buy being among the trees you were able to release your stress, tension, and anxiety? In the past few weeks, I've been exploring a deeper sense of connectedness and energy that I tap into sometimes, in the world outside my home. Last month I was inspired by an article I read on Medium.com and some of Kyle Cease's videos on YouTube.

Since then, I have been exploring the richness of the experience I can have just by feeling into the space around me. Though most of the time, I am at home, I have noticed that I experience more profound, and sometimes more soothing moments when I do venture outside.

What's in the Space?

Have you ever thought about what's in the space around you?

There is something vibrant and alive connecting everything - us to each other, us to the trees, the trees to each other, etc.

Let's try an experiment...

A Walk in Nature

Imagine walking through those trees in the first picture and immediately feeling free of all stress, tension, anxiety or any other bothersome feelings or negative energy.

Breathe slowly and deeply, and just let it all go. Spend some time really feeling into what that walk would be like.

Exploring the Space Where You Are

Now, bring that relaxation back into the room you're in, and close your eyes. Once they are closed, notice your body breathing. Just notice it.

If thoughts come to you, imagine them floating right on by you. And then go back to your breathing.

Next, I want you to listen to the sounds around you. Coming from anywhere in the room you're in.

Now imagine the space that the sounds are in. And hone in on the space around you.

See if you feel at all connected to it. Stay as you are for a minute or so and notice what you notice about what you feel.

Be the observer for a moment, as you tune in.

What Did You Experience?

This experiment blended guidance from Kyle Cease and a mindfulness exercise I found in that article I mentioned. The article is about effortless mindfulness and I highly recommend that you read it and try that exercise. You can find it here - mindfulness article.

I tried both suggestions separately. In Kyle's exercise, you're just noticing what you feel.

And after really getting quiet and still, I felt love in the space around me. And a deeper connection than I usually feel.

When I did the mindfulness exercise, and got to the part where the awareness notices the one who is aware, I felt like I was lifting up and going into the space, and even becoming the space.

I felt like I was unembodied. And I had this sense that I was so much more than I think I am.

I'd love to know what your experience was like with either exercise.

See you next time!

Love, Jeanine

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Almost Wordless Wednesday: Two Questions

10/25/2023

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Two Questions

Do you have a daily self-care practice?
If you do, is it helping enough?

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Spiritual & Energetic Protection

10/24/2023

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I've always taken any experience of spiritual warfare as a sign that I must be on the right track. But that's a compliment I'd rather do without, frankly.

If you're a lightworker, doing all you can to raise your frequency and shine your light bright, expect to attract both positive and negative attention. And if you've been feeling attacked, here's what to do...

How to Identify Spiritual Warfare

It may vary by lightworker, but the goal would always be to render you ineffective, or to make you give up, so you might not feel quite like yourself, or may even feel sick. You might find it harder to connect with God or the universe, or your intuition.

And when you use your healing techniques, it might feel like they aren't working. You also might be experiencing distractions in the form of challenges popping up in your life.

I know it sounds a lot like normal life in some ways. but for me, it often follows a positive shift or powerful healing experience. Though it may have always been true, my guides tell me that now, when you heal anything in yourself, light and healing go out to the earth and to its people.

So if lightworkers can be sidelined, darkness wins. Spoiler alert - can't win, won't win, but they may not know that.

Another sign, for me, is that it all seems to happen at once, and doesn't go away until I do something about it.

What inspired this post is that for the past 3 or 4 days, after a couple of empowering, spiritual mountaintop experiences, one thing after another started going wrong. I'm sick right now, out of the blue, but that's just one of the things that have happened.

And I prayed about it, and threw healing at it, but couldn't seem to shake it. For me, this is the biggest sign of all. When I can't meditate, connect to God, or feel healing as it happens, something is wrong.

The thing to keep in mind is that you're not alone. It's happening to the entire lightworker collective, I believe. And there are things you can do, that will help.

Wear or Carry these Crystals

(1) Clear Quartz - most people who have any crystals at all will have clear quartz. And it can be programmed both to protect and to heal you in the specific ways that you need.

Hold it in your hand and set the intention for what you need it to do, and then keep it on your pocket, or place it nearby.

(2) Obsidian - this crystal absorbs the negative energy that is aimed at you, and then emits positive energy to replace it. It also will repel negative energy in the future, if you have it on you or near you.

I also recommend putting some near your front door if possible, because any energy trying to come in, won't be allowed past your front door.

(3) Rose Quartz - I recommend this crystal because of its high frequency. It will both deflect negative energy and transmit positive energy.

And it will help to heal your heart and keep it open, even when it seems like it's all coming against you.

There are other protection crystals, too, of course, and you can do a search on them in case there are some you would rather keep close than these I have mentioned here.

The Healing Light
Protection Meditation

NOTE: I infused both portal pictures with healing energy, light, crystals and the intention that it will give you protection if you imagine walking through it. The big hearts are meant to represent your heart energy because ultimately, healing is an inside job and the power of the frequency of love is a superhero strength.

THE MEDITATION

Begin by finding a quiet and comfortable place to sit or lie down. Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths, inhaling positive energy and exhaling any tension or negativity.

Imagine yourself standing in front of a beautiful, glowing portal. This portal represents the doorway to spiritual protection and healing. The heart in the middle symbolizes the love and light that you are about to invite into your life, and send out from your heart.

As you approach the portal, visualize all the negative energy and emotional baggage that you've accumulated slowly being lifted from your body. Picture it as dark clouds or heavy weights, and watch as they dissolve and disappear into the ether.

Now, step through the portal. As you pass through the heart-shaped door, feel a warm, loving energy enveloping you. This energy is a shield of pure white light, and it's here to protect you from any negative energy or spiritual attacks. Imagine it forming a protective barrier around you, like a comforting cocoon.

Take a moment to bask in this healing light. Feel it infusing every cell of your being with positivity, love, and tranquility. Allow it to soothe your mind, body, and spirit.

Next, envision yourself surrounded by guides and guardian angels. These benevolent beings are here to watch over you and keep you safe. You can feel their presence and trust that they will provide guidance and protection.

Now, focus on your intentions. Set a clear intention to release any fear, doubt, or negativity that may have accumulated within you. Imagine this negativity being transformed into pure, white light and released into the universe.

As you breathe deeply and slowly, allow the healing light to continue filling you with love and protection. Visualize it sealing your energy, creating an impenetrable shield against negativity.

You are now protected, and the healing light will continue to shine within you, guarding you from any harmful influences. Whenever you feel the need for protection in the future, you can return to this visualization and strengthen your shield.

When you are ready, slowly open your eyes and return to the present moment, carrying this protective energy with you.

Remember, you can come back to this meditation whenever you need to clear negative energy and reinforce your spiritual protection.

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Did you try the meditation? How did it go?

See you next time!

Love, Jeanine

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What Would it Mean to Live a Fairytale Life?

10/20/2023

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[The fairytale life is] marked by seemingly unreal beauty, perfection, luck or happiness. -
Merriam-Webster dictionary

That definition sounds right, doesn't it? But it leaves your fairytale life and my fairytale life undefined. And that's because each of those criteria might mean something different to one of us than it does to another.

Pause for a moment and take a deep breath in, and then, release it.

If I was your magical fairy godmother - and let's say that I am - I would raise my wand and instantly, you would be in the middle of your own fairytale. But what would that look like and feel like?

See if you can tell yourself that story in a way that doesn't involve winning the lottery. And keep reading to see if you get any ideas.

Seemingly Unreal Beauty

I'll be honest. I have longed to be beautiful all of my life.

What I see in the mirror matters far more to me than what others say about how I look, and I know I need to deconstruct my standards. Because I could buy a cable-knit pullover, but I'm never going to be an Ivory girl.

And I'm not tall, and I'm not thin.

But I remember this moment, many years ago, when I was a therapist and one of my clients brought in her newborn to show us. I held that baby and fell in love.

And I just happened to glance up at the mirror across from me and I looked SO beautiful. Love had transformed me.

As I get older, most of the seemingly unreal beauty I encounter is in nature, in colors that harmonize in clothing or elsewhere, and on the faces that have been transformed by love or joy.

In the design of my fairytale life, I'd like to include greater access to the beauty of nature, even if it is through a window. I've had some idyllic moments looking at beauty through a window. But I also would like to include a wardrobe in colors I am in love with, because that makes me so happy.

What are your thoughts about beauty?

Seemingly Unreal Perfection

This phrase makes me think of another one - living a charmed life. And seemingly unreal. Perfection would mean that not only would nothing go wrong, but also that what you did experience was tailor-made to delight you.

Could I stand that? Not yet. I still have some things to heal. Could you?

I love the idea of it. Tailor-made to delight me.

I'd really like to define this idea for myself within the confines of my current situation. And so far, in my design, I am opening the curtains and letting in sunshine to look at the view, which is a magical forest.

Here are some of the other things that come to mind - morning tea, a seasonal candle that smells like dessert, daily spiritual practice so I can hang out with all that is, watching movies, reading books, afternoon tea, hygge (which I will be talking about next week), listening to music, spending time with friends & family, and going out to eat from time to time (without dressing up quite as much as the next pix suggests.)

Now, there's a wrinkle in that fabric - chronic fatigue syndrome. Sometimes I am too fatigued to do any of it. And I have yet to figure out what the quiet sick day fairytale looks like.

What would be perfect for you?

Seemingly Unreal Luck

Ah-ha! I have a story to tell about seemingly unreal luck.

The scene opens on your truly wandering into Walmart to return a dress I bought. My intention was to get a gift card for it and use that to buy two shirts I had been eyeing.

Later, I have chosen one of the shirts, a Christmas night shirt and some fuzzy socks and am headed toward lane 7 with them and the food I had gathered.

Now here's the exciting part. We're almost there.

When I handed her the gift card for the clothes, it didn't work. After several tries, the cashier called over two other women who worked in the store and they couldn't get it to work, either.

So they told me I would have to go back to customer service and see what they could do.

And I must tell you that I was feeling a bit put-upon at that point. I already felt guilty that what I had chosen would cost more than the gift card amount, and I had planned to change my mind about the shirt.

But when I told the lady at customer service, she said that I should have a receipt that said I at least paid for the food, so she was going to go talk to the cashier. I waited there, and felt bad for the long line I had left behind, that would now be waiting even longer.

Well! It turns out that the cashier was new and when she started ringing up the next woman's purchases, my clothes were still on there.

Do you know that that lady paid for my clothes?!?

Can you believe that? I would definitely call that seemingly unreal luck.

And what's more, I still have the gift card!

This is the hand of God, people. I have heard in several different places that when you are committed to your own healing, and have begun to significantly lighten the load, synchronicities will begin to happen.

Kyle Cease is one of them who has said that. He promises that if you meditate and let your issues come up and out.

Basically, the universe rewards you because you are working for the team and doggedly trying to heal and raise your consciousness.

And that is starting to happen to me. Even though I mess up all. the. time. I'm so grateful!

So as I place my order for the luck part of my fairytale, I would like to include more lucky experiences. They remind me that God is there, that I am loved and accepted, and that God wants good things for me.

Do you feel lucky? :)

Seemingly Unreal Happiness

I had a moment like this recently, too. And oddly enough, I was at Walmart.

Someone said something to me and when I beamed back in response, I realized how happy I was. For no particular reason.

In fact, I had been happy all day. It was a good day. Rather ordinary. But a happy one.

I want lots more moments like that! Where I realize I am happy and having a good day.

The things that make me happy are all included in the perfect list above.

What are the things that makes you happy?

Putting it All Together:
Creating the Fairytale

Have you been playing along? If so, you've got some ideas about what would make your life feel like a fairytale.

Create a list in your journal, and think about what it would take to experience more of the things on it, and experience them more often.

See you next time!

Love, Jeanine

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Creating a Fall Fairytale: 10 Cozy Self-Care Ideas

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You have to take care of yourself. How can you show up in your relationships? How can you show up in your career? To give & create, a really true lasting gift to this planet and this world? How can you show up to that, if you can't even show up for yourself?
- Nathan, Vibes and Frequencies

I want to do some writing about how to create a fairytale life. I used to do that all the time, and I think it's important to remember that even if we have a new earth mission, we still get to create lives we love.

I know we all know how crucial self-care is, but do we do it? Here are some self-care ideas, with a fall flavor.

10 Cozy Self-Care Ideas for Fall

Not only can you do these self-care practices year-round, but they are especially good for the fall season. They help you to embrace the cozy, relaxing vibes of fall, while also helping you to make yourself a priority and do some good things for yourself this time of year.

AND, you can combine them with your spiritual practice. For example, you can meditate while a yummy candle you love is burning next to you. You can call all your power back to yourself, and get grounded while you sip your favorite tea.

(1) Start by Living Slower Mornings

Beginning your day with a slower-paced morning is an amazing way to treat yourself and incorporate some more relaxing habits into your daily routine.

And it will be ideal for your spiritual practice, because with space, it will be easier to hear from your intuition or spirit team.

Start by waking up a little earlier so that you have more time in the morning to take it slow, and really enjoy every aspect of your morning. Then, you can be more mindful and intentional with your mornings, whether that means waking up gradually on your own time, or choosing not to use your phone and reading or journaling instead.

Here are some ways you can indulge more in slower mornings:

Take a relaxing morning bath. Switch it up by having a relaxing bath in the morning instead of in the evening.

Maybe you normally take your bath in the evening, when you are winding down from a long day. But by switching it to the morning, you are pampering yourself right when you wake up, and this can really set the tone for the entire day.

You can add essential oils or crystals to your favorite bath oil so that your bath does healing duty, too.

Read and journal instead of using your phone. It is a really common bad habit to use your phone as soon as you wake up, but instead of spending that time mindlessly scrolling, why not do something productive that is both good for you and will help you wake up in a more peaceful way?

Take those minutes where you would typically scroll social media and use that time to read a chapter from a book or journal.

Enjoy your favorite fall beverage while watching the sun come up. If it is still warm enough to go outside on your patio or balcony in the morning, this is a wonderful way to wake up.

Get up a few minutes before the sunrise, make a cup of coffee or tea (or whatever you enjoy in the morning), and head outside with your coziest pajamas on.

Sit under a blanket and watch the sun come up. This is such a therapeutic and relaxing way to wake up in the morning.

And what a great place to have a morning prayer, or to set intentions. Or to visualize the day you want to have.

(2) Enjoy the Quiet Ambiance of the Fireplace

There is something so beautiful, warm, and magical about lighting a fire during the fall. You can do this any time of the day, and it will create the perfect environment for relaxing and spending time doing whatever you love.

Plus, you can do just about anything in this relaxing environment, and it is a great way to practice self-care.

Some ideas include:
Reading a book
Journaling
Meditating
Practicing mindfulness
Yoga or stretching
Resting quietly
Listening to soft music
Practice letting go by imagining fire burning it away
Coloring or doing other crafts

Don’t have a real fireplace? Don’t worry! The electric fireplaces create such a similar ambiance. Just light a candle nearby that smells like a wood-burning fireplace, and you will barely notice the difference.

Don't have that, either? That's okay - I use the Netflix version all the time.

(3) Make a Comforting Fall Beverage

Fall seems to be made for sinking into hot cups of coffee, tea, or cider.

Practicing self-care doesn’t have to be a drawn-out, complicated activity. It can be anything that makes you happy and brings you a few minutes of peace.

As long as it is something you enjoy and that soothes your soul, it can absolutely be considered self-care.

Sometimes, that could mean enjoying a hot beverage on a crisp, fall afternoon.

Having a pumpkin spice latte from your neighborhood café, a homemade chai tea with an extra dash of cinnamon, or even a smoothie if that’s what you prefer. As long as it is something you truly enjoy, it's a great form of self-care.

You can have your fall beverage while reading or journaling, as you prepare for your day, sitting in front of the fireplace, or while watching the sun go down.

Turn it into a daily ritual.

(4) Bake Your Favorite Fall Treats

Another favorite pastime for fall is baking more. Do you love to bake during the fall season?

From pumpkin scones with apple butter, to cranberry orange muffins and all the cookies your heart desires.

This can also be turned into a seasonal self-care activity, even if you just do it once a week. You will feel so much comfort in your heart and soul by baking for yourself, family, and friends, and bonus: your house will smell amazing.

Not a baker? Me, either! But you can still enjoy them. Just buy them at the store. :)

(5) Bring in the Scent of Fall with Candles

To really get those fall vibes and practice self-care at the same time, consider lighting some fall-scented candles. You can combine it with your spiritual morning routine and make it even sweeter.

You can read an inspirational book while sitting next to your cashmere candle that smells just like a crisp autumn day.

Or breathe in the sweet pumpkin vanilla candle that makes you think instantly of all your favorite baked goods while you use your mandala coloring book to relax for a few minutes. Or meditate with crystals.

(6) Use Journaling for Self-Discovery & Self-Reflection

Another idea for fall self-care is finding time for self-reflection, introspection, and clarity. This is also a season of personal growth and abundance, where you revisit your goals and reset aspects of your life.

It's a great time for deciding what to keep and what to let go of from the list of intentions you set as the year began, and journaling is a good self-care activity to use as you do so.

You can choose from so many different forms of journaling, all of which have their own benefits. For example...

The Brain Dump. One of the easiest ways to start journaling is with a brain dump.

This is where you write a stream of consciousness journal entry, which simply means you write whatever comes to mind, on any subject you want. There's no goal except to get all of those tangled thoughts and confusing feelings out of your head and onto paper where you can better analyze them and hopefully gain a little clarity.

Daily Journaling. Remember those diaries from way back in the day? This is better.

Daily journaling is the adult version of diary writing, where you write about your day, anything you have planned, what you got done, what you are experiencing, or feeling, and anything else that comes to mind. And it cannot be used to release the stress from the day or look forward to the next one.

Journal Prompts. If you struggle with knowing what to write about, you can also start with journal prompts.

Prompts are questions or statements that offer you a little direction about what to write about. You can get a big list of general prompts or choose a more topic-specific one, even fall-inspired journal prompts!

Gratitude Journal. For this time of year especially, gratitude journaling is a wonderful style of journaling to use. For more information about the power of gratitude, check out number 8 self-care activity below!

(7) Wear Your Coziest Pajamas

Who doesn’t love a clean, warm set of cozy pajamas? The great thing about Fall is that since the temperatures start cooling off, it is the perfect time to get out your most comfortable pajamas, sweats, and sweaters and really just enjoy how soothing they are.

When you have a day off work, try to wear them a little longer in the morning before getting dressed so you can really just enjoy this time to be extra comfortable. Sometimes the best self-care is in the tiniest of things.

I have started doing my morning meditation wrapped up in my favorite blanket and I love how cozy it feels. What would make your spiritual practice more cozy?

(8) Start a Gratitude Practice

Speaking of gratitude, this can be a powerful fall-inspired self-care activity.

Gratitude is a simple practice where you are thankful and appreciative for all the blessings currently in your life, big and small. It gives you a chance to reflect not on what you want more of or what you are missing, but what you already have.

Seeing all of the beauty already in your life, all the comforts, the love, the security, the connections.

How to practice gratitude? Here are a few ideas:

Write a list of what you are grateful for every day.
Write one thing you are grateful for each day on a post-it note.
Start a gratitude jar with notes of what you feel grateful for.
Give people gratitude notes when they do something you appreciate.

(9) Enjoy the Changing of the Season

There are so many ways to truly embrace the fall season. You can choose and enjoy events and holidays during the fall where your self-care is more about socializing and getting out of your house to see and experience wonderful things.

Here are some ideas for enjoying the fall season as a way to also do something for yourself...

Go on a scenic drive to look at fall foliage
Take pictures of the fall leaves
Go to a pumpkin patch
Spend the day at your local harvest festival
Go apple picking
Go to a bonfire and tell ghost stories

Self-care comes in so many forms, which is the beauty of it. Whatever you do for yourself, is something you can consider self-care, even if it’s just meeting your friends at a fall festival to enjoy the day together.

(10) Have a Fall Movie Night

This last recommendation is another one based on social self-care, which is to have a fall movie night. This could be at home, with your family, or friends, or you could even invite extended family over for a fun little get together.

Turn on everyone’s favorite fall or Halloween movies, enjoy some snacks and fall beverages, and have a cozy night in.

Would you like to download a free printable self-care checklist with my favorite ideas from this post? Click on the download below.

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Have you already begun to combine your self-care with enjoying the fall season? Tell me in the comment section.

See you next time!

Love, Jeanine

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