I have a question for you as you begin reading this blog post - on a scale of 1 to 10, how positive is your self-talk, in your most challenging moments?

That’s when staying positive is the hardest, wouldn’t you say?
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And in those moments, or others, our thoughts and words hold incredible energy. When you can consciously choose uplifting thoughts, you can maintain a higher frequency. 

So let's explore the practical and down-to-earth ways to shift from negative to positive self-talk.

One way to shift to more positive self-talk is to replace the negative things you say to yourself with positive replacements.

(1) Change "I can't" to "I'll find a way."

(2) Try replacing "I'm not good enough" with "I am enough, just as I am."

(3) "This is too difficult" can become "I can handle this challenge."

(4) Let go of "I always fail" and change it to "I learn and I grow."

(5) See if you can think of other statements.

My self-talk story: the ugly thing I used to say to myself is "I'm such a loser!" And one thing I did to stop my own negative self-talk was to replace it on the spot. "No, I am not. I'm kind and loving and..." You get the idea.
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Find a cozy spot where you can relax and connect with your inner self. Take several deep breaths, exhaling slowly, each time, and let any tension you are feeling melt away. 

Visualize a warm, golden light enveloping your entire being, filling you with a sense of peace and self-acceptance. Repeat this affirmation silently or aloud:

"I am filled with light and love, radiating into my words and thoughts. I release negativity with every breath, embracing positive thoughts, instead. I am attracting joy, abundance, and healing into my life."

Visualize that golden light installing your affirmation into each cell in your body. Notice it raising your frequency and increasing the light you carry.

Feel it soothe and warm you, too, helping you release the energy of negativity from your past.

Stay with this process as long as you need to and until it feels complete.

When you feel lighter and warmer, and ready to fully come back to yourself, you can open your eyes.

How was it? Tell me in the comments.

Love you!

​Jeanine
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When you take a look at the placement of Venus in your natal chart, and also have a look at the house it is in, you may get some ideas about how best to love yourself more, and increase self-acceptance.
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I have Venus in Cancer and can definitely relate to this description. And from it, what comes to me about loving myself more is the need to dedicate time to self-care and nurturing/mothering myself, to look for ways to create privacy and safety when I need to process what I am feeling, and to find ways to appreciate and create beauty in my home, even though my budget is quite limited.

​My Venus in Cancer is in the 5th house. My understanding is that that is about self-identity and strengthening my sense of self. Also, about what I need to feel like I am living a good life. And that might mean simple activities that bring me joy, especially if I am doing them with family or friends.

So, best ways to love myself more...

(1) Make time for self-care, choosing simple self-nurturing activities, doing things I love with people I love. And this doesn't have to be big things. Just having dinner with friends on Sunday means a lot to me.

(2) Make time for processing my feelings and be careful about who I share those feelings with, so I feel safe if and when I do share them.

I am so grateful for the friends I can share my thoughts and feelings with. I haven't always had that. My closest friends are ones I am convinced are part of my soul family.

(3) Create moments when I can appreciate beauty. This might mean taking a walk in nature, or it could just mean opening the blinds and watching the trees move in the breeze.

(4) Make it a priority to create the life I want one day at a time. Sometimes I let days pass by without a lot of planning or thought - probably not the best idea.

When I'm fatigued, I can still plant myself in front of a book or movie.

(5) Give myself emotional warmth and the feel of a mother's love. Now, my mother passed away and I miss her a lot, so this might mean - in addition to mothering myself - that I need to seek connection with the divine Mother, through prayer or crystals or essential oils, etc.
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Over to you - have you found Venus in your chart? What does it imply about how you can love yourself more?

See you next time!

Love, Jeanine

In this post, I want to share a hygge morning self-love ritual, a self-love meditation and self-love affirmations.

Hygge is a Danish concept that is all about creating cozy, comfortable, and inviting spaces. It's about creating a warm atmosphere with the people and things around you, and it's about taking the time to enjoy life's simple pleasures.

Hygge encourages you to take time to slow down and appreciate the small moments in life. And I believe it's an easy way to nurture self-love.

It is a physical reminder that it's okay to practice self-care, that you are worthy of love and that you deserve to take time for yourself.

Practicing hygge can be a wonderful way to show yourself some love and kindness, and it can be a powerful way to cultivate feelings of self-love.

As we grow in our ability to love ourselves, that love can help us become the higher-frequency future self we are called to be. We can visualize our future with love, and make small changes in our lives now to help us reach our highest self.

By taking the time to practice self-love and focus on our growth, we can become our best selves and live the life we truly want.

But along the way we may struggle. We might find that as we try to become our best selves, we fall a little short of our own standards.

And when we do, that is when we need self-love and self-acceptance even more. Be kind and comforting, and give yourself some cozy, hygge self-care.

We're on the path and we're going to get there. There's no hurry. And loving ourselves more is part of the process.

If you're struggling with low self-esteem, feeling overwhelmed, or discouraged, I hope this post will resonate with you. Let's get started!

(1) Wake up early, preferably before the sun rises. If not, just make sure you'll have a quiet space.

(2) Make yourself a warm cup of tea or coffee.

(3) Find a cozy spot to sit and make yourself comfortable.

(4) Take a few moments to be still and quiet. Enjoy the peace and quiet of the morning.

(5) Light a candle and open your journal.

(6) Write down three changes you are noticing in yourself, no matter how small. 

(7) Write down three positive affirmations about yourself. What do you like most about yourself?

(8) Take a few moments to reflect and think about what you wrote.

(9) Close your journal and meditate for a few minutes.

(10) End your ritual with a few moments of self-care. Do something that makes you feel good, like reading a book, taking a walk, or cuddling with a pet.

Begin by taking a few deep breaths in and out of your nose. Allow your body to relax as you breathe.

Now bring your attention to your heart center. Feel the love and self-empowerment that resides here.

Imagine a beautiful, glowing light radiating from your heart center. Feel this light growing brighter and brighter.

As it radiates outward, envision yourself wrapped in a cocoon of love. Allow this love to fill every cell of your being. Feel its warmth and acceptance.

Now visualize yourself as the best version of yourself: strong, confident, and empowered. Feel the power that comes with believing in yourself.

As you continue to breathe in and out, silently repeat to yourself: “I am enough. I am worthy. I am capable of achieving great things.”

Allow the positive energy to fill your entire body until you feel a sense of peace and strength. When you’re ready, slowly open your eyes and take a few moments to take in the feeling of self-love and empowerment.
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See you tomorrow!

Love, Jeanine
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Pause for a moment and put both hands over your heart and say this to yourself...

(Self-Love, that is)

Today, everything is right, astrologically speaking to slow down, pause frequently and give yourself heaps of love. 

Tomorrow, I'll give you some ideas for a self-love ritual and give you some more affirmations, but just for today, give yourself as much love as you can.
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Why is self-love a foundation for emotional healing? 

Self-love is the cornerstone for emotional healing because it helps to build self-esteem and self-confidence. When we love ourselves, we are more likely to accept our flaws, recognize our strengths, and forgive ourselves for mistakes.

It also helps us to make healthy choices and set boundaries, both of which are necessary for emotional healing. Additionally, self-love helps us to be kinder to ourselves, which can reduce feelings of shame, guilt, and anxiety.

​So developing a daily self-love routine would be well worth your time.
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See you tomorrow!

​Love, Jeanine
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