Remember that it’s okay to have a life outside of personal development, study, and helping people.
In yesterday's post, we talked about how living a life that lights you up and makes you happy is just as important as your dedication to self-healing. Today, I want to include self-care as a priority, too.
Just so you know, I need to hear this message as much as you do. It's a reminder that frequently pops up for me, as well.
We know we're here to help humanity raise its frequency and consciousness. It's what drives us and makes us so dedicated to our own healing, so we can radiate a stronger light to others.
But we have been brainwashed by the hustle-grind mentality of our culture.
So even though I know better, I've too often put it on the back burner, myself, allowing exhaustion and burnout to creep in. It's a life lesson that keeps resurfacing.
So, let's take a look at why making rest and self-care a priority is an absolute necessity, not just for the sake of those we came here to help, but for our own sake as well. We have to acknowledge that our capacity to heal and offer our light to the world is profoundly tied to our own state of well-being.
Make Rest & Self-Care
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If you're not sure, go to Astro.com and type in your birth information. You can look at the actual chart pic or the table below with planets listed.
Venus in Cancer
Very soft, loving & kind. May be self-protective in relationships. Wants a beautiful home & safe spaces to process feelings. Can reveal where you are becoming your own mother. Where you are mothering yourself. - Molly McCord
My Venus in Cancer is in the 5th house. My understanding is that that is about self-identity and strengthening my sense of self. Also, about what I need to feel like I am living a good life. And that might mean simple activities that bring me joy, especially if I am doing them with family or friends.
So, best ways to love myself more...
(1) Make time for self-care, choosing simple self-nurturing activities, doing things I love with people I love. And this doesn't have to be big things. Just having dinner with friends on Sunday means a lot to me.
(2) Make time for processing my feelings and be careful about who I share those feelings with, so I feel safe if and when I do share them.
I am so grateful for the friends I can share my thoughts and feelings with. I haven't always had that. My closest friends are ones I am convinced are part of my soul family.
(3) Create moments when I can appreciate beauty. This might mean taking a walk in nature, or it could just mean opening the blinds and watching the trees move in the breeze.
(4) Make it a priority to create the life I want one day at a time. Sometimes I let days pass by without a lot of planning or thought - probably not the best idea.
When I'm fatigued, I can still plant myself in front of a book or movie.
(5) Give myself emotional warmth and the feel of a mother's love. Now, my mother passed away and I miss her a lot, so this might mean - in addition to mothering myself - that I need to seek connection with the divine Mother, through prayer or crystals or essential oils, etc.
Over to you - have you found Venus in your chart? What does it imply about how you can love yourself more?
See you next time!
My Spoonie Life this Winter
Do y'all remember that song with the lyrics, "winter just isn't my season?" Truth!
Though I really enjoyed connecting with you guys this month, I know I wasn't here much. Which I regret, but could not really do anything about, unfortunately.
Here's what I have learned...
(1) If I don't write all my blog posts in advance, this is what participating in the UBC is probably going to look like.
(2) Might look like this even if I do.
(3) My epic crash this past month might be connected to doing #allthethings in December even though I was sick.
About that last one - I was so happy to be spending time with my friends, getting some Christmas shopping done, and eating fun food, that I went out and went out and went out, even though I was burdened by the latest plague my son caught at work.
It felt like I was getting away with it.
But chronic fatigue syndrome, or ME/CFS as it is usually now called, seems to have had the last laugh, because this month has been a wash! Sheesh.
Spoonie Self-Care & Spirituality
But you know what, I am still grateful I got to participate and connect with you guys at all.
My commitment to myself this year includes emotional and spiritual healing, rest and self-care. And I am learning that my illnesses are a kind of spiritual initiation.
It's likely I'd resist healing and spiritual growth without them. At least to some degree.
So, I guess - *cough* *mumbles* *shrugs* - I am grateful for them, too. ;)
How Did the UBC Challenge Go
for You this Month?
(1) Did you get more traffic?
(2) Did you get new subscribers?
(3) Did you have neat conversations?
(4) Did you feel more connected w/ your readers?
I hope you had a great experience.
And hopefully, I will see you next time!
Love you guys!
New earth fairy godmother, self-care healing coach
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