This Aries eclipse offers us a chance to take stock of our journey so far. And it's important to look at the things that may have been triggers for us in the past, and to ask ourselves if we have grown past them.
Have we moved on from the issues that used to cause us pain and upset? Are we able to see things from a different perspective?
But it's also a time to recognize that we have already come a long way. It is a chance to look at the lessons we have learned and the changes we have made, and to celebrate our growth.
Becoming Your Future Self
Use this Aries eclipse as an opportunity to look ahead and ask yourself who you want to be in the future.
What would you have to let go of in order to become your future self? What do you want to create in your life, and what can you do to move closer to your dreams?
This is a time of really leaning into what you know about who you are at a soul level, and what you know about your future self. How have you changed, grown, and evolved? What steps can you take to move closer to the person you want to be?
This can be a special time of self-reflection, and it's an opportunity to call it done and to neutralize the things that trigger us.
As we move through this Aries eclipse, let us recognize that we have already grown past it, and that we are capable of even more.
Neutralize the Things that Trigger You
You may be bound to a situation or person that is detrimental to your wellbeing. Are you ready to unlock the chains? - Penumbra Tarot
Here are 5 steps you can take to detach yourself from unhealthy reactions and empower yourself to respond, instead...
(1) Think about the situation or person who triggers the reaction in you.
What kind of thoughts come to mind, and how does it make you feel? Write them down.
(2) Ask yourself which memories from the past made you think and feel the same way. They are what fuels your hair-trigger reaction.
(3) How can you begin to make peace with or heal them?
(4) How can you rewrite those stories so that you can rewrite this one?
(5) Keep chipping away at it until you begin to react less and respond more.
Letting Go Meditation
Find a comfortable seated position and close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths in and out. Allow your mind to drift and focus on the feelings of being calm.
Visualize yourself in a peaceful and calming place. This could be a beach, a forest, or any other place that soothes you or brings you peace.
Now, imagine yourself releasing all of the emotions, thoughts, feelings and experiences that have been causing you distress or triggering you. Picture them floating away from you until they are out of sight.
Allow yourself to become aware of the peace that comes with being free from these triggers. Feel the relief of letting them go.
Now bring your awareness to your body. Feel any remaining tension and stress leaving your body as you take a few more deep breaths in and out.
When you are ready, slowly open your eyes.
(1) How did it feel to let go of the emotions and triggers that have been causing stress?
(2) What did I learn about myself?
(3) How has this process changed me?
(4) What kinds of things can I do to avoid reacting in the old ways in the future?
(5) If I do get triggered, what can I do to nurture myself?
Self-Love Celebration Ritual
To celebrate your growth, create a self-love ritual to honor yourself. This could be as simple as lighting a candle and writing down how you've grown, or as elaborate as creating a special ceremony. The key is to take a few moments to pause and give thanks for the journey we have made, and the lessons we have learned.
What's one thing you want to celebrate about yourself? Let me know in the comments.
I've always been interested in new ways to understand how to find your life purpose. And a post I read yesterday marries life purpose to a question I often ask about everything from creating your perfect morning routine to planning your new year. Mind blown!
How Do You Want to Feel?
Now, if you're participating in the winter edition of the Ultimate Blog Challenge, you may have been lucky enough to read the blog post I am referring to, a couple of days ago. The post comes from Dominique Brooks, from RebootedMomMD.com.
And she marries finding your life purpose to my favorite question - how do you want to feel?
What I'd like to do here is think through her life purpose questions for myself, as journal prompts, and give you a chance to do the same.
The Life Purpose Journal Prompts
Internal goals are when we try to recognize how we want to feel. ... The second step is to learn how to generate that emotion. ... Finally, the third step is to find ways to share that emotion with others via a variety of services.... That’s your true life purpose. RebootedMomMD.com
Before reading my responses, I invite you to pause and consider each question for yourself...
How Do I Want to Feel?
TW: one night, after an episode of abuse, when I was about 9 years old, I was having an asthma attack and was determined not to survive it. But a loving being (guardian angel?) materialized in somewhat shadowy form and told me that if I stayed, I would eventually learn to be or become happy.
And ever since then, that has been my number one goal in life. I was pretty self-absorbed about it, too, for a good long while.
But eventually, a couple of decades ago, I had this moment of revelation about how people struggle to be a better person, but can't, because they can't heal or let go of the past.
The want to let things roll off their backs, or respond with compassion or kindness, or not react so strongly, etc. But something constrains them.
They want to be happier, but can't quite manage that. That was my struggle, too.
So one answer to how do I want to feel? is "happy."
But recently, in the past year or so, I have begun to add another one.
It's those moments when suddenly you notice that you aren't reacting the same way you normally do. When you feel a sense of oneness and love and want to send that out to all sentient beings.
I think of those moments as a kind of everyday enlightenment. And I want to experience a whole lot more of them.
How Can I Create that Feeling?
I would say that it is my spiritual practice and self-care & emotional healing experiences that have worked best in this area.
Spiritual aromatherapy with my favorite essential oils, visualization, yoga poses, and yoga mudras have all been powerful sources of those feelings and experiences. So I definitely want to continue all of those spiritual healing practices.
How Can I Share it with Others?
This is a question I've already been thinking about, though not exactly connected to life purpose.
But for most of my life, when I have thought about what I would do for the world, if I could, it's been about making everyone happy. And at an even deeper level, it means helping them heal and change the way they think and respond to life experiences, so that they are able to allow others to live in peace and have more happiness and peace, themselves.
I see people who do harm as being bound and as needing emotional healing so that they can be set free. But recently, I have thought of it in an even bigger sense, in terms of a kind of spiritual awakening or enlightenment, just as I have for myself.
So I want to write more about those concepts here and weave them into the work I do.
If you have not read Dominique's post yet, I urge you to hop on over there, because it is filled with goodness about how we can reclaim our power as women.
And in the comments, I'd love to know what thoughts have come up as you read her post or this one.
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