A month or so ago, I embarked on a 21-day experiment with The Frame Technique. I learned it from an Aaron Doughty video and posted about it on my first day. Stay tuned and I'll tell you how to do it and share my results.
The most POWERFUL meditation for SETTING BOUNDARIES. This meditation will allow you feel safe in your own frame so that is easier for you to set boundaries and let go of people pleasing patterns. Listen to this meditation for 21 days and see how your life transforms. - Aaron Doughty
How to Do the Frame Technique
The Frame Technique involves breathing deeply and slowly, allowing yourself to fully relax. Then you stare intently at a candle flame while observing the distance between you and the flame and thinking about the distance between you and people with whom you need to set better boundaries.
He suggested that on the inhale you notice distances and on the exhale, you look at the periphery of the candle.
Here's What Happened for Me
I listened to the actual meditation twice. Then I started doing it on my own.
But I noticed that sometimes my relaxation was not as deep, so I lengthened the time for that, but also slowed down the voice in my head as I remembered him speaking s l o w l y.
It definitely helps with my sense of self, and boundaries - meaning, where i end and someone else begins. I think it has helped with setting boundaries, too.
In hindsight, I wish I had listened to the actual video meditation more often because I think there was something about the way he did it, that I did not replicate.
What do you think? Is this something you might try?
See you next time!