I first understood myself to be highly sensitive back in the late 80s, I believe, when Elaine Aron published her eye-opening book on the subject. I took her quiz and there was only answer that wasn't a "yes."
Then, later, I learned about what it means to be an empath.
An empath is a person highly attuned to the feelings and emotions of those around them. Empaths feel what another person is feeling at a deep emotional level. Their ability to discern what others are feeling goes beyond empathy, which is defined simply as the ability to understand the feelings of others. Instead, being an empath extends to actually taking those feelings on. - VeryWellMind.com
So it's taking those feelings on part of the definition that leads to what I call "living a lie." And if you're a healer, you could mistakenly focus your healing intentions on healing the lie, instead of telling yourself the truth instead.
I'll explain more about what that is in a bit & give you some tips for living more authentically. But first, I want to give you an example of what I am talking about from my own life. This happened less than 30 days ago.
I was walking around the store, just doing my grocery shopping, as usual, when I began to realize that I didn't feel well. I felt kind of depressed, and suddenly very tired.
And I had been fine when I got there, so I was quite puzzled about this sudden change in the way I was feeling.
Well, being overwhelmed by crowds is a hallmark of being an empath, and I knew that. And this Wal-Mart was a mega store. But I didn't remember any of that.
I started making up reasons to explain why i felt the way I did! And I believed those stories I made up because they were based on truths.
I didn't get much sleep last night. And I really like to go to the store earlier in the day, so I have more energy while I'm there. It's almost dinner time, so I am not only tired but probably hungry too. I bet I have low blood sugar. And sometimes when my blood sugar is low, I start feeling depressed. Plus, I wish I could buy new clothes, like the ones I just saw, but I they are not in the budget right now. Oh, well.
Now, all of that was true. All of it. BUT the lie was that any of the things I came up with explained why I felt the way I felt.
I was shopping with friends, and once I had checked out, I went to stand where the shopping carts are, to wait for them.
And suddenly, I began to feel A LOT better. And I realized that the problem was the crowd of thoughts, feelings, physical sensations, etc. coming at me from all sides of a very crowded store.
Do you see what I mean?
What I should have done was use the technique I describe in this video. Listen and see if you agree...
5 Tips for Letting Go
(1) In addition to the technique I described in the video, I wanted to clarify that I use the Sway test for muscle testing.
(2) Once I have determined what's mine and what's not mine, I say aloud and visualize that I want it to be cleared and transmuted.
(3) Then I choose something to replace it, like peace or self-love or feeling grounded. I imagine it cascading over me, and I pause so that I can feel it.
(4) If whatever I was feeling is connected to something in me that needs healing, I use a technique called theta healing to heal it.
(5) Then I use a Reiki distance technique and ask/pray for what has been done to last all day and into the night.
What do you use to deal with your own sensitivities and the difficult people in your life?
See you next time!