The Self-Talk Quiz...
TRUE OR FALSE...
-I criticize my looks.
-I have negative thoughts about my best efforts.
-I talk myself out of trying new things.
-When I receive positive feedback, I say or think ‘Yes, but. . .’ I would never talk to other people the way I talk to myself.
-I label myself with derogatory names, such as loser, stupid, klutz, etc.
-When I have good thoughts, my critical inner-voice reminds me of past failures.
-When entering a room, I anticipate the worst.
-I find myself repeating the same negative thoughts automatically.
-I find fault with my accomplishments.
Count the number of true answers..
0 – 3 Your self talk could be better.
4 & Above Let’s discuss your responses.
Are You Sabotaging Yourself with Negative Self-Talk?
You can discover if you are sabotaging yourself by tuning into your thoughts and listening.
What do you hear?
You may not even realize how negative thinking may be dominating your life. This may be something that you deal with daily and have come to see as normal.
(1) Do you talk yourself out of being excited and hopeful every time you feel good about yourself?
(2) Do you often start out feeling confident in yourself and your abilities, and then drop to zero confidence when your inner dialogue kicks in?
(3)Are you encouraging yourself with positive thoughts? Or are your thoughts filled with negatives?
You can combat negative thoughts with positive-self talk instead of letting an automatic negative thought process rule your life.
Positive self-talk is the practice of responding to negative thoughts that run through your mind. For example, when you tell yourself that you can't possibly land the job because you aren't good enough, you can respond with positive thoughts that leave no room for negativity.
These thoughts can be as simple or complex as you like. The important thing is that you continue to think positively.
Now, one way you could change your thinking in a really powerful way is to pair your positive thinking with affirmations...
Affirmations & Positive Self-Talk
Affirmations are simple statements you can repeat to yourself over and over again. Affirmations are positive statements that replace your negative thought processes. You can allow these thoughts to become true for you. The process is as subconscious as it is conscious.
When you continue to reaffirm the positive thought, you will make it true for yourself until you eventually don't need to remind yourself to think that way.
Set an intention to replace your negative statements with positive thoughts when you repeat your affirmations. Eventually, it will become second nature to repeat your affirmations anytime that you start to think negatively.
With positive self-talk you can truly change your life completely.
You can go from being a negative person with no hope for the future, to being an optimist who can achieve anything you put you mind to. Does this mean that there won't be challenges along the way, or that you'll never fail?
No, because those things are a part of life. But what it will mean is that you'll have a better attitude, which will allow you to grasp the very best that life has to offer.
7 More Tips for Eliminating Negative Thinking
Before we get into the 5 tips, let's find out more about the extent to which negativity is affecting you. Take the negativity quiz and then read on for more tips to help shift your negativity habit...
(1) Notice your repetitive thoughts and when they occur. The first step to changing these thought patterns is to catch them when they first begin. When you notice negative thinking, change your thought.
(2) Read positive quotes each day. If you can’t find the time to read a book, at least read a few positive quotes each day. You can buy calendars with positive quotes. There are also plenty of websites with quotes on a wide variety of 1 topics.
(3) Keep your mind in the present. That doesn't mean you can't look ahead, as needed, to make plans. But your thoughts should remain rooted in the present.
Thinking about the past often leads to frustration and regret. Thoughts of the future can cause anxiety. Keep your mind on your current surroundings and task.
Decide not to worry about the next step. Take care of the current step first.
(4) Ask yourself, “Do I know for certain this is a fact? Or is it just my opinion?”
You don’t know as much as you think you do. You make a lot of assumptions based on faulty knowledge.
That might lead you to believe that your situation is less solvable than it really is. If you don’t have accurate beliefs, you’re already at a huge disadvantage.
(5) Let go of the idea that perfection is possible. Expect that you won’t be perfect at anything.
If you make perfection your goal, you’ll always fall short and that will lead you right to more negative thinking.
(6) Spend time doing something that makes you feel good. It will be a lot easier to have positive thoughts if you’re doing something you enjoy.
Make a list of things you like to do and spend some time each day doing at least one of them. Enjoy yourself each day.
(7) Meditate - Meditation seems to be a cure for everything. It’s one of the best ways to learn more about your thought patterns. It’s also a great way to learn to focus and direct your thoughts.
Negative thinking is a challenging habit to defeat.
But if you monitor your thoughts, defeat negative thinking before it can take root and replace those negative thoughts with a positive alternative, over time, you’ll find that you’re spending more of your time thinking positively, and your life will change for the better!
Affirmations for Releasing Negativity
I release all negativity from my life.
Being a positive person allows me to enjoy my life at a much higher level. Everything seems better and I am happier.
I can always find something positive about every person and situation I encounter.
When I have to deal with someone that challenges my positive feelings, I understand that this person has been sent to help me release my negativity.
Focusing on positive feelings helps me to release all negativity from my life.
Today, I choose to focus on the positive.
I see the good in every situation I face and every person I meet.
Journal Prompts for Letting Go of Negativity
(1) What is the most difficult challenge I face to maintaining a positive attitude?
(2) What daily experiences tends to make me feel negative?
(3) What are the benefits of releasing all of my negativity?
Which tip or suggestion from this post will you try first?
See you next time!